Being a Queen is the goal. Being a B*tch is a hassle.

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I’ve been so consumed with being a new mommy that I haven’t had time to sit and write but, I was determined to connect with you today. I hope you Queens miss me as much as I miss you. I wasn’t sure what I’d write about when I first pulled out my computer but I came across something on my instagram that I thought it was necessary to address. I came across a post of a young lady gloating about having a bad attitude and being unfriendly and I was just wondering why does she see this as something to brag about?

I’ve always heard young ladies say “I’m not friendly” or “You cant handle my attitude” and  never understood why being unfriendly and having a bad attitude is viewed as good attributes by some young black females. As if black women aren’t already viewed as angry and unapproachable, some of us flaunt it as if it’s a badge of honor and I just would like to understand why. Why is there anything wrong with being friendly and kind? You’d be surprised how many opportunities can pass you by because you have a bad attitude or how many divine connections you may pass up because you are unfriendly. You can not attract the right people in your life when you’re constantly shutting people out. The scripture says that God draws his people with love and with kindness (Jeremiah 31:3) so what makes you believe that you will attract the right people in your life by being the opposite?

Priding yourself in having an attitude that no one can “handle” does no good for anyone. Why do we as women, black women especially always feel like our attitudes are something that have to be “handled”? Why is it uncommon to be a pleasure to be around? Your man shouldnt have to handle you, you should be his safe haven and his place of peace. Please don’t get me wrong and take this as me telling you to be a push over. I don’t mean that in any way at all but, constantly being a tough cookie for absolutely no reason at all is exhausting to the person that has to deal with you.

There are people waiting to meet you and a great man waiting to love you but you have to be receptive. You have to be a woman. A woman who is soft, kind, sweet, and ready to receive. It’s okay to let your guard down, with the right people of course and just allow yourself to be kind and friendly. Pay someone a compliment or a smile instead of mean mugging and being rude, you’ll be surprised at the difference it’ll make you feel. Your loving and kind energy will attract people to you who are meant to be in your life. Do not allow the stigma of being hard and unapproachable block your blessings. Being a Queen is the goal being  a B*tch is a hassle. Save your self the trouble and lose the tough girl act because not everyone is out to get you.

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Love you Queen,

Shanice Royal


Death to Excuses


“Excuses are tools of incompetence used to build monuments of nothingness.” This quote was relevant back in my junior high school days and holds even more relevance today. I have a hard time understanding individuals that habitually make up excuses for why they can not accomplish and fulfill their dreams. Every day I meet people that are comfortable with just enough, people that are okay with barely making it, and have settled for their dreams being just a dream. This is mind boggling to me! Why do you feel like you have to settle?  What is it that makes you think that your dreams are so far-fetched? How can you possibly be so comfortable with the little that you have?

Maybe I’m just different and if I am I embrace that wholeheartedly but, I need other queens to understand that your dreams are tangible. Many of us have dreams so enormous that it can sometimes become overwhelming and intimidating to think of actually accomplishing it at all. I understand that completely but, I’m here to let you know that it is possible! With the level of accessibility that we have to things through social media and the internet, everything is literally right at our fingertips. The thing that makes these dreams seem so intimidating is the fact that we are constantly focused on the overall goal and the endless list of things that need to be done to get there that we freak ourselves out. While it is important to keep the overall goal in mind, it’s also very important to make smaller goals to get there. Starting is the key! Stop thinking about it, stop stressing about it, and just do it! Set small goals for yourself and deadlines to accomplish those goals. Be proactive and productive and you’ll eventually begin to see that list of things to do get shorter, you’ll be closer to your dream, and that thing that once seemed impossible to achieve won’t be so intimidating after all. I know it all sounds so cliche but, it’s the truth!

The instructions are simple but, in no way did I ever mean for you to think that any of it would be easy. You must remain focused, driven, passionate, and work extremely hard. Success requires sacrifice, sometimes sacrifice can cause one to be discouraged but, keep in mind that in the end it’ll be well worth it. While everyone else is out spending their last popping bottles in the club you just keep grinding! The goal shouldn’t be to be rich because riches come and go; the goal should be to be wealthy. Wealth is a permanent state. It’s about leaving a legacy to past down to your children’s children. When you think about those sacrifices understand that the goal isn’t just about you, it’s about your legacy. There is no way that working for a legacy of wealth could ever come easy but if you really want it, it is Possible!

You have to want more for yourself because you deserve more! You do not have to settle and you should never feel comfortable with settling if you do because you posses the power to be greater! Often times there will even be individuals in our circles of influence that will try to put us in a box, convince us to dream on a smaller scale, and make us think that we’re being completely ridiculous for having such big dreams. If you never listen to anything I say listen to this, Do not share your dreams with small minded people. God gave you those big dreams because he is confident in your power and he knew that you could make it happen. Dumbing down your dream is basically a slap in his face, an insult to him. It’s as if you’re saying that he made a mistake, and we all know that’s not possible. If he has that much confidence in you why can’t you have that same confidence in yourself?

I see too many older women living regretful lives and complaining about their pipe dreams that never came true but, the truth is it’s never too late. As long as you have breath in your body there is still time for you to do what you always dreamed of doing. Don’t wait for things to come to you, go out and get them. Work hard, be authentic, and your gifts will make room for you. I believe in you Queen. You have the power to do and be anything or anyone you dream of! Now stop wasting time coming up with reasons why you can’t do it or why you haven’t done it yet and get to work.

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Love, Shanice Royal