In honor of my birthday today I want to write about a life lesson that it took all 23 years of my life to learn. We live in a generation where genuine friendships are hard to come by and friendship is often compromised by our inability to forgive. We are extremely egotistical and we don’t believe in exposing our hearts to show others how much they mean to us. Many friendships end today because we are so quick to cut each other off after the first mistake as if we are faultless. In my days of immaturity I’ve had several friendships come to an end over petty misunderstandings. If I was hurt by a friend I’d never address that friend I would allow my ego to guide me into believing that the person I once called my friend and shared all my secrets with was no longer worth my time. I would cut them off completely and in my head the best way to deal with it was to simply act as if they no longer existed or meant anything to me at all.
Well I thank God that he allowed me to live long enough to realize that my way of thinking was completely wrong. I pray daily for God to open my eyes to his wisdom and to his ways and one thing became extremely clear to me. Harboring hurt and qualms in your heart for someone can block your blessings! What if God was like us? What if he cut us off after our first mistake and never dealt with us again? You may say, Well I have nothing against them they have an issue with me. Well I am here to tell you that even if you feel that they have the issue it is just as much as your responsibility to address things as it is their’s. Sounds crazy, right? I thought the same thing too, which is why I went over a year without talking to a friend that I really loved because I never felt that I was the one at fault. My thoughts were always “If I know that I did nothing wrong then I never have to feel bad for not calling or speaking to them ever again.”
I began to seek God and ask for ways that I could be better including being a better friend. He began to minister to me and show me that in order to be a better friend you have to be mindful of your friend’s feelings. If you feel things are changing ask if there’s a problem. If something is done that hurts or offends you, say it! Don’t just walk around feeling some type of way and never speak on it, address the issue! We will never be able to receive everything that is in store for us when our hands are full holding on to things that hurt us and we are to prideful to confront.
Let down your pride and address the issue, take initiative and apologize if you need to (trust me it will not kill you)! Even if it’s not accepted it’s okay because you’re no longer holding on to it. Try to reconcile if the friendship is worth it! Good friendships are always worth the reconciliation. Humble yourself!! Forgiving hearts are light and full of joy so lets learn to forgive.
God wants us to address the issue before we can receive anything from him!
-Matthew 5:23-24 “So what if you are offering your gift at the altar and remember that someone has something against you? Leave your gift there and GO MAKE PEACE, THEN COME OFFER YOUR GIFT”
Go and make peace! Never let an unforgiving heart inundate you!
Peace and Blessings to you Queen
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Love, Shanice Royal